Posted on: 29 January, 2003

Author: Mike Pilinski

========================================="Some Essential Dating Advice For Men"-- by Mike Pilinski --(c) 2003 Kipling Kat Publishing Co. -- All Rights Reserved ========================================="Some Essential Dating Advice For Men"-- by Mike Pilinski --(c) 2003 Kipling Kat Publishing Co. -- All Rights Reserved you're a single guy still looking for your dream POA (piece ofa**), I'm sure you've absorbed lots of advice on how best tomeet and date women by now. A lot of it is "common sensical"as you well know. Therefore, assuming you know enough not toshow up on a first date looking like you just combed your hairwith an M-80 or wearing cowboy boots and shorts, maybe a fewof the following ideas can give you just enough of an edge tomake the difference between Date #2 with an exciting little fox --and a date with ol' Rosie Palm instead. Check these out :1 ) Don't Try To Act Like A Fake On The First DateA woman often makes a far more profound emotional investmentinto a relationship than a man does. So for her, TRUST is animmensely important issue. Dating is not just a convenient wayto get her rocks off, it's a case study in the male psyche. Canshe trust you to ever be a good future father? Don't laugh,unless she's middle-aged and well beyond the kids & husbandphase of her life, this "mating calculus" is ALWAYS runningsomewhere in the back of her mind.Acting like a phoney with an obviously fake 'come-on' personalityonly demonstrates how easily you are willing to embracedeception in order to get something you want. To any womanother than the sad exception of the chick who's looking foranother loser for her next AA reclamation project (maybe 10% to15% of the female population), you are TOTAL POISON. Apotential cheater and heartbreaker just waiting for his next victimto arrive. She may dump you right away, OR depending on thedepth of her general bitterness towards men, keep you around toengage in a little recreational tease and torturing if she's got avendetta to settle with a guy like you. Beware!2 ) Create New Memories Instead Of Swapping ThemHere's the very best dating advice I can ever give anyone: inorder to make any date memorable and fun, spend 90% of youractivities in the present moment.It's easy to get caught up in the "talking trap" on a date -- wherethe two of you sit around and get lost in deeper and deeperconversation. These 'chatting dates' can slip out of control andbecome subtle passion-killers though, especially if you're notcareful to keep the big picture in focus. Before you know it,you're spilling your guts about Father Hamhands from your altarboy days or waxing poetic about your hemorrhoids and how theylove to swell up in the springtime. Yeesh. As Joey from the TVshow Friends once scolded his buddy Chandler, "... ok, that'sTOO MUCH information!..."For a seduction to go off like a thing of beauty, you must revealyourself SLOWLY -- bit-by-bit -- as you gradually come to knowher. Think of dating as an emotional veil dance... a striptease --the point of which is to make her anticipate when the next Veil ofMale Mystery will come off! This is the kind of thing she's beenDREAMING about all her life. Why? Because it makeseverything that's to follow (including the sex) all that much moredelicious for her.So put ACTION ahead of endless yakking. Stay active on a date(it doesn't have to be an extreme sport-fest or anything, justvisiting a flea market will do...) so that you are BUILDING amemory with her instead of SHARING one. Focus on havingexperiences with her that the two of you can reminisce aboutsome day in the future -- instead of spending time caught up in alot of drawn-out amateur psychotherapy sessions in a barsomewhere. Conversation is very important in any newrelationship, and is the pathway to her eventual sexual surrender,but you must provide her with a REASON to want to know somuch about you *FIRST* before opening your soul. Never forgetthe importance of your veil dance.3 ) Don't Be A BoreA boring person is anti-charismatic -- which is to say that,instead of making people feel GOOD about themselves by actinginterested in them, the boring person makes us want to run awayscreaming from the agony of having to listen to another secondof his self-absorbed droning!The point of conversation should always be focused on drawingHER interests out instead of dwelling on your own (but don'tcome across like a ruthless Nazi interrogator -- go easy on theunbroken string of questions). Share a little -- but keep YOURinterests lost in the background. Her response to a few casualqueries about her life or current dreams holds clues to your*LifeLine*. Cling to it tightly and work on expanding its scope.Submerge your own ego for the first few dates. Don't worry,when you finally hook her she'll begin questioning you intently...maybe TOO intently! But that probably won't happen until afteryou've had sex. (Then get ready for the onslaught!)4 ) Forget About Trying To Act "Like Yourself"The standard dating advice of "being yourself" or "acting likeyourself" (whatever the hell that means) is pure "Oprah-istic"B.S.Learn to strike a balance between coming on like a phoney-baloney (which we talked about earlier), and seeming too safeand friendly. Seduction is a delicate bubble that can be burstwith increasingly less effort as it ripens. A first date is NOT theplace to remain in the role of your everyday average old sort ofguy... that's spells B-O-R-I-N-G. A spark must be present toignite the *fires of desire* in the old primal portion of her brain.So that means you have to be EXCITED to be out with her!When you think about it, it should be easy to get juiced someone for the very first time is not something thathappens every day in anyone's life. Face it, ordinary life sucks.Romance is a fantasy voyage, an escape from the 9 to 5 dailydrudgery of work, etc. Treat this rare event for what it is...something unique, unrepeatable and potentially unforgettable.Even if she seems too cool to care, trust me... her romancemotor is humming along in high gear.5 ) Five Minutes Of Nerves Is Normal, Then Calm DownAfter some initial awkwardness due to understandable jitters, youshould be able to calm down and hit your stride. If you have areal problem controlling automatic body reactions tonervousness (bad sweating, stuttering, facial twitching, etc.) mybest advice is to get a book on yoga and practice it WITH ANOPEN MIND. You don't have to go nuts and join the Green Partyor anything, but DO try some of the deep breathing andrelaxation techniques. They really work and can give you theself-control edge you might need. This will project through inyour attitude as a cool confidence that is the unmistakable signof a High Status Male!Learn to always keep your movements around the women you'retrying to seduce graceful and deliberate like a snake charmer.Modulate your voice in a throaty style (lowered volume) and keepthe tone of your words sounding a little bit "conspiratorial"(without going overboard and making a fool of yourself).A squeaky voice spells fear and sounds adolescent, so strive tokeep it in check. Be self-aware.6 ) Obsession Is The Hallmark Of The Weak MaleDominant males will show an interest in any attractive womanthey encounter because they are highly sexually driven. But --because they have many options with females open to them --they do NOT act obsessive about any *particular* woman. Sodon't be obsessed with her... just be interested. Proclaimingridiculously inappropriate nonsense like "...I love you" or "You'rethe girl I've been searching for my whole life..." on a first orsecond date is the frightening talk of the potential stalker. Youbecome RADIOACTIVE to women once word of your engaging inthis kind of bizarre behavior spreads. And it will spread...women gossip like demons. So chill the subservient grovelingand act like you've been down the dating & mating road a fewtimes already.7 ) No Matter What Happens, Assume She Likes You... andBelieve ItI'm not kidding here... this is an essential Jedi mind trick that youMUST somehow learn to play on yourself. Simply ASSUME thatany woman you're working will *always* like you -- and dowhatever the hell it takes to sell this idea to your unconsciousmind! Women can become mesmerized by men who seem tobe captivated by them. But this kind of 'vibe' can only shinethrough your body language if it's GENUINE -- and for that tohappen, you have to believe that she will respond favorably toyou... *no matter what*.Remember... ATTITUDE + UNCONSCIOUS BELIEFS = THETRUTH. Your attitude is a naked expression of yourunconscious beliefs about yourself. Therefore, it is interpretedBY OTHERS as revealing the absolute truth about you... whetherYOU like it or not. Control the self-image that you project to theworld by pushing the crappy beliefs about yourself out of yourbrain, and replace them with empowering ones that will advanceyour own personal 'cause' for a change. Strive to deliberatelymanipulate this critical part of your consciousness, and watchyour world change before your eyes like magic.Before long, you'll soon have your pick of all the best lookingwomen in YOUR world!========================================= Article Tags: Essential Dating Advice, Essential Dating, Dating Advice Source: Free Articles from