Posted on: 02 March, 2017
Author: Alexander P
Let’s start by talking about the sexual ADVANTAGES you have in a long-term relationship or marriage. The biggest advantage that you’ll have in a long-term relationship is that you won&rsqu... Let’s start by talking about the sexual ADVANTAGES you have in a long-term relationship or marriage. The biggest advantage that you’ll have in a long-term relationship is that you won’t have to worry about Immersion. Because the two of you have been having sex with each other for so long, you should both be very comfortable, relaxed and natural around one another. Because of this, she’ll be open to more exciting forms of sexual experimentation that she wouldn’t be with a guy she didn’t know as well. The two of you should also be very familiar with each other’s’ bodies, so you’ll know exactly how to please each other physically. And finally, there isn’t as much “pressure to perform” on you, because you know that she’s in this for the long haul and a single bad sexual performance won’t seriously damage you. However, there are also two major challenges that you face in a long-term relationship/marriage. If you’re not careful to avoid these pitfalls, you could find that even though you’re doing everything else right in bed, sex in your relationship steadily becomes more and more boring and stale until after a number of years, she’s barely interested in having sex with you at all. The first challenge is that it is extremely easy for sex to become routine, predictable, and boring in a long-term relationship or marriage. Especially if the two of you are living together - and even more so if you have children - it is very easy to fall into a routine where you are doing the same exact thing every single day. Wake up, get the kids ready for school, go to work, come home, eat dinner, watch some TV together, get ready for bed, and then at the end of each day comes the allotted time-slot for sex according to http://enlargement-world.blogspot.com/2016/10/male-enhancement-supplements-are-very.html Remember one of the main principles of Variety - predictability is the root of all boredom. In a long-term relationship, it is the natural tendency to fall into a “sexual routines” where you’re having the same exact kind of sex, in the same exact place, in the same exact time, day after day after day. If you let this routine continue indefinitely, eventually she will lose interest in sex altogether. You must constantly be combating this tendency towards predictability and routine, and constantly finding new ways to add Variety to your relationship to keep it fresh and exciting. The second challenge that you face in a long-term relationship is that there is implicit PRESSURE to be having sex with one another. By this, I mean that in a long-term relationship the rational, logical, sensible thing for you both to do is to maintain a healthy and active sex life. While this would seem like it is a motivating factor to have sex, actually it is the complete opposite. Remember, human beings are sexually turned on by the forbidden - what they are not “supposed” to desire. If something is taboo and “irrational” to be sexually attracted to, inevitably this only increases our attraction to it until it becomes an irresistible compulsion. If something is acceptable and “rational” to sexually desire, our level of sexual attraction to it is actually diminished. Unless you guard against it, this counter-intuitive principle will work strongly against you in a long-term relationship. Source: Free Articles from ArticlesFactory.com Alexander P is a blogger that studies sexuality. He lives in Los Angeles, CA.