Posted on: 08 February, 2003

Author: Mike Pilinski

========================================="Men: When it comes to the Dating Game, are you Playing with Scared Money?"-- by Mike Pilinski --(c) 2002 Kipling Kat Publishing Co. -- All Rights Reservedhttp... ========================================="Men: When it comes to the Dating Game, are you Playing with Scared Money?"-- by Mike Pilinski --(c) 2002 Kipling Kat Publishing Co. -- All Rights Reserved I have a friend who's a big time gambler -- horses and sportsbook mostly, but he'll take a flyer out to a casino and burn up acrap table once in a while. His playful lifestyle has given him aunique view of reality. Here's what he told me about betting andrisking: He said that the absolute worse way to approach anygame of chance was to go in with a pre-set maximum limit inyour mind of just how much money you are willing to lose. "I'm only gonna bet $50 -- if I lose it, forget it... I'm done.This way I can only lose a maximum of $50! Smart guy, eh?That's not so bad, right?..." Notice how much energy is expended deciding how best toprotect your money -- while little consideration is given to doingwhatever it takes to actually WIN? This is a classic loser'smentality, not the "smart guy" style of play. Why? Because it'san overriding play 'strategy' (and I use this term loosely) that'sbased upon the assumption that you will probably LOSE nomatter how events ultimately unfold. There is NO considerationgiven as to how you're going to win -- because in the deepestrecesses of your mind you do not accept that winning is reallypossible. Oh sure you might've chalked up the rare victory hereand there along the way, but in the long run you will alwayssomehow end up the loser (you think). So the "Big OverridingIdea" then becomes to protect yourself against any seriouslosses. My buddy calls this Playing with "Scared Money". And hehas another saying too... SCARED MONEY ALWAYS LOSES! Timidly, you lay down your bet and the House sweeps itaway. Bye bye, jackass. See ya again when you have another$50 bucks for me to cleave off your wallet. It never fails. Thereis just no way to play the game of life in a half-assed protectivemanner and ever make any real progress. The "I'm-not-going-to-take-any-risks" approach to life is a formula for abject failure. Plain and simple. Nature seems to abhor it, and ensures that allits practitioners are gleefully punished with unending failure andfrustration. The *successful* gambler -- by contrast -- always remainsfocused on WINNING, and keeps punching through his losseswith a bulldog determination until he gets there. The way myfriend describes the process must seem terrifying to the riskadverse... if you lose $50, you bet $100 next time. Lose that,and now you bet $200. Next time, $400. The idea is to keepdoubling your bet so that when you finally DO win it will morethan cover your previous losses. Yikes! You see, the confident, ballsy gambler has to keep pushingharder and harder into his losing streak with steely nerves,knowing that a WIN for him is out there eventually. His only fearis that he goes completely bankrupt before reaching it. But if hedoes bust out, well... ...there's always next time! Lots of guys approach the game of love and romance in asimilar fashion to the timid gambler. Their "Big Overriding Idea"is to protect their EGO (their "bet") at all costs -- and that costusually turns out to be complete failure to meet anyone! Insteadof focusing on the importance of WINNING and being successful,they are concerned instead on "not losing" and keeping their self-esteem intact. But it's exactly this kind of timid approach that turns womenOFF and insures your failure with them. Women can smell yourfear -- it's as unmistakable as an open sewer! And it screams:Low Status Male. Bottom Line: when it comes to scoring with women, likegambling, you will lose far more often than you win. THIS ISHOW THE DAMN GAME IS DESIGNED!!! Understandsomething here: the *losses* are the payment for the win -- NOTthe "wager" that you make with your self-esteem. I repeat... youpay for your future winnings with the losses, not with the risk toyour ego that you feel you're taking. Keep this in mind because,if you're losing on a regular basis with women, it could be that byprotecting your most valuable asset (your ego) you're preventingyourself from laying down a bet with the REAL currency that theGame demands... i.e., a string of setup losses. You see, the guy playing with scared money doesn'tunderstand that the gamblers' thrill of winning far exceeds theagony of the losses it took to get there. Dominant males win atthe game of seduction because they NEVER play with ScaredMoney... And neither should you!========================================= Source: Free Articles from