Posted on: 02 March, 2017
Author: Alexander P
I know, when your last relationship fell apart, you vowed you'd never fall in lust again, let alone love. Now here you are wanting to get naked with someone — and trying to convince yourself it'... I know, when your last relationship fell apart, you vowed you'd never fall in lust again, let alone love. Now here you are wanting to get naked with someone — and trying to convince yourself it's no big deal. After all, it's hardly as if you're a virgin, is it? You've done “it” before. So if it's not such a big deal, why do you feel so...we||, completely and utterly petried? Because sex with someone you like and want to build a relationship with is a big deal. Allowing someone to see you naked — to feel, smell, and taste your body — does make you vulnerable. And I'm not even talking about the emotional complications and dangers that intimacy implies. I'm just talking about the physical part. The part when a million weird and worrisome thoughts spill into your brain faster than the champagne you're gulping down in a vain attempt to stop them. Will my body be good enough? How will I compare to their ex? Will this be a tum—off? Will they notice the scar on my back? Do I have a zit on my butt? ls it any wonder your heart's going pitter—patter-thud-thud? Fortunately, anxiety isn't the only thing that's making your heart race. After all, we are talking about sex with new flesh here. Which is enough to raise even Aunt Martha from her sexual deathbed in about one second at So, on D- (Do It) Day, you find yourself seesawing between feeling as nervous as hell and as excited as can be according to http://chrshrt112.typepad.com/blog/2016/11/dominant-males-and-intimacy.html How does all this translate to the bedroom? Not terribly well, quite frankly — particularly for him, because penises tend to follow their masters. Meanwhile, as a woman you're lying there torn between wanting to show off all you've learned after years of reading Cosmo and not wanting to seem too experienced. What to do? Keep reading. COUNTDOWN TO A FABULOUS FIRST Think about contraception and safer sex. Thinking someone’s awfully sweet/drop—dead gorgeous does not mean you won't wake up with an awfully painful not-so-gorgeous blister on your whatnot Think about timing Do it when you feel ready, not because society expects it or your friends say you should. Take your time, take it slow, get to know each other first Set the scene Too much styling and it'll look contrived, but you can make sure there are clean, crisp sheets on the bed. GET SET... Take baby steps Penetrative sex (i.e. intercourse) is often the most frightening part for both of you because: 1. Her "good girl” dilemmas rush to the fore; and 2. He requires an erection to do it. The more time you spend easing into it, doing everything but, the better. It gives his penis time to get past the shyness stage, plus if he's still phoning after pretty intense petting/oral sex sessions, she'll be reassured that he's not just in it for the sex. Get the attitude right Sex isn't a test. You're not going to be graded (and if it feels like you are, you're with the wrong person). So stop stressing and thinking "This has got to be just perfect" Sex is supposed to be fun! If it’s feeling like you're about to take your road test, talk about it before going further. Say "I can't believe this, I've been waiting 50 long for this moment but I so want it to be right." If you're with the right person, they'll instantly jump in with reassurances. Perfect set only happens on the Soaps; normal people muddle through the first time. Source: Free Articles from ArticlesFactory.com Alexander P is a blogger from Los Angeles, CA who studies male sexuality.