Posted on: 30 December, 2004
Author: Tapan Sarkar
Every marriage starts with a lot of hope and dreamabout life long association filled with love andtogetherness. But very few marriages fulfill the hopesof the participants in totality.There are variou... Every marriage starts with a lot of hope and dreamabout life long association filled with love andtogetherness. But very few marriages fulfill the hopesof the participants in totality.There are various reasons for this but here we singleout 6 of those. Every young person who is planningmarriage should be aware of these most common pitfalls. 1. Marrying for the sake of love without firstchecking the depth of love.No denying that all relationships start with a sense oflove and mutual liking. Committing to a long termrelationship like marriage solely on the basis of thatfeeling of love is a mistake. Because most of the timethis kind of feeling is superficial and can not passthe test of time. Romantic feeling dies as time passesand far more important issues like 'family background','values', 'religious faith', 'financial stability'raise their head, and these issues are of realimportance which almost every body with feeling ofmutual love ignore.2. Marrying someone who does not share an interest orhobby.While marriage with a person who does not share aninterest or hobby does not itself make the marriageunstable, presence of such an interest or hobby canmake life more enjoyable for both the partners. Andthis can make a real difference so while selecting lifepartner this aspect must be taken into account.But for some reason or other this aspect is oftenoverlooked before marriage. And efforts start aftermarriage to adapt the partner to one's own interest ordevelop a new common interest. While that is not animpossible task, the process of adapting may become un-palatable and may lead to unstable marriage.3. Not knowing what questions to ask for checkingcompatibility.As discussed earlier that marriage decision based oninitial sense of love may be counter productive. Tomake a marriage successful one should do some simplehomework. Knowledge of future partner's background andcertain other things can play a crucial role here. Butmany young persons either do not try to know all theseimportant facts or do not know what are importantaspects s/he must know to make their marriagesuccessful.4. Thinking proper and careful quarries may offendher/him.One may think that too much investigation about futurepartner's back ground may not be a good idea. As theother partner may find it distasteful. This kind ofthought process keeps many young man and woman fromasking the right questions before marriage.5. Depending too much on a friend or relativesrecommendation.A sizable number of young man and woman often getmarried on the recommendation of relatives or friends.While generally relatives and friends are regarded aswell wishers, marrying on their recommendation is not agood idea. As their knowledge of a person can neverequal to the knowledge the person has about herself orhimself. So the person to be married is in a muchbetter position to select compatible life partner. Bestway out is acting on their recommendation only aftersuccessful completion of compatibility check.6. Getting married to make somebody else happy.Sometimes people get married to make someone elsehappy. It may be parents or it may be relatives. Thereis no problem in making someone happy if that does notjeopardize one's own marriage. But most of time in suchcases marriages occur without exercising enoughcaution. As a result one may end up marrying someonenot compatible.If you are really serious to make your marriage anexciting, loving and enriching experience you need tobe careful about the above things before your marriage.Tapan Sarkar Source: Free Articles from ArticlesFactory.com